In the modern world, sex is something that most (if not all) people desire. It’s a deeply seeded part of human nature, one that has remained one ever since we were monkeys living in caves. The sexual drive is one of the most powerful sources of motivation and hunger that is known to us humans; you could say that lust is the most powerful out of all the seven sins, since it’s the one most commonly linked to our collective sense of reproduction and animalistic instincts.
So, knowing this, how can a person be asexual?
To not be attracted sexually to anything? Is it possible to completely lack the most natural and basic desire in the human brain? It seems like an impossibility, one that even the most prude and sexually disconnected people feel, albeit one they hide and store deeply within then, most likely lying to themselves and others about their sexual hunger.
I, for example, consider myself to be romantically disconnected. I feel like my ability to live with another person, when I myself am so satisfied with my own solitary existence, seems impossible. I am a disorganized, free-loading, care-free idiot who loves to be alone, and after a while, gets bored and irritated of being around or with people, and always feels pleasure conversing and reflecting with and within myself, always changing states of mind, and I’m completely happy with that. I’ve come to accept my own loneliness as something not detrimental and sad, but as a form of enlightened state, where I only exist to utterly please myself, and am ready for a life of blissful solitude.
But still, I have sexual thoughts and desires. I have tastes regarding women, their appearance, personality, and sexuality. I have sexual thoughts from time to time, and ultimately (like I imagine most men do) want a beautiful, perfectly crafted woman to pleasure me and do my every bidding.
It’s not because as a collective, men only see women as sexual objects, but it’s because as a species, as a living being, men (above women) have a need for power and control over the opposite sex. Especially in our ass-backwards modern culture.
Most people who commit acts of sexual depravity are men. Most rapists are men, most pedophiles are men, and most men in general are more focused on sex than women are. This isn’t some plight to insult women at all either, it’s a pure and simple difference between men and women, largely due to the societal evolution of today, and how that has affected us in a physiological and psychological way.
You see, sex nowadays is viewed in a way that is ultimately a paradox. When thought about, it’s actually really obvious, and many of us (especially those in the world of media) discuss the nature of sex in the same way that I will do so right now.
Sex is a paradox because it’s seen as something both utterly natural, respected and ultimately universally desired by almost everyone around the world, but it’s also seen as a disgusting, unsightly and noneducational blight on the growth and maturity of children and “normal” people.
Now why is this the case? One word: Religion.
I know, I’m about to bash religion. What glasses-pushing, beta-liberal, hopelessly ignorant teenage “hipster” blogger hasn’t ragged on religion ever since being critical of religion has been trendy?
Look, religion has it’s positives, one of them being a sense of fulfillment and hope for a person, a sense of community and acceptance, and the idea of a tangible, pleasurable existence beyond the crushing, never-ending realization of death. Also, Jesus.
But, it is not an overstatement to say that religion is the cause of most world-wide problems with the world right now, and has been for the entirety of human history. Most wars were raged on an ideological level, that ideology being crafted by or against a particular religion. The Crusades? Religion fueled. The World Wars? Ideological wars based on disagreements of nation, race and power, originally caused by religious divide and preconceived notions of superiority over other human groups.
It’s safe to say that religion is both the best and worst thing to happen to humanity, since our modern world has evolved due to it, but yet has caused the largest amount of atrocities and destruction that this planet has ever seen outside of it’s 5 major extinctions.
The thing is, and this is purely my opinion, that religion is now a thing of the past. It served well for humans when our knowledge of the universe was microscopical compared to how it is now, as it served as a basic structure for human life and paved the way to how the world was crafted as a human utopia, but now, it ultimately serves as a deterrent and limitation on almost every aspect of human existence.
People all over the world under the age of 30 have been born into a world which values cynicism, objectivity and progression. Science has reached a point where we are making new and groundbreaking discoveries every day, people are realizing the nature of their own minds and creativity is at an all time high, with new and fascinating content being released at an astonishing level every second of every day, and that’s just going to increase more.
But nonetheless, there is something holding us back. Something that is keeping the ever-expanding and forward nature of humanity from achieving everything which it could achieve, and that’s religion. Here is why.
How many times haven’t we heard the stories of kids, now teenagers or adults, who had questions and doubts in their minds, but were kicked down and berated by their families and communities because of the thoughts they were having? How many people are leading a life of perpetual conflict, not only within their own senses of perspective and realizations about the world, but also how their own mind differs to that of everyone else, all due to being brought up in a religious household? How do they feel when they live in a world where science and logic rule, but that those concepts clash with their own sense of existence, the one they were given by their parents, their most trustworthy people?
And not only religion is cause of all this, it’s also due to lack of open-mindedness from that persons parents or caretakers. All people on earth are crafted by their early experiences, and those lead to the evolution of that person from a mindless baby to an adult with desires, dreams, and goals.
Is is also true that a person can be born with a preconceived preference to certain things, but much more likely is a person to acquire a taste for something if that something has been taught onto them as a child. People who have grown in religious households (those that affect the child positively instead of negatively) tend to lean in favor of those religious ideals, while those that punish and limit the child due that family’s religious backgrounds tend to rebel and escape the mindset they were a part of.
My point is, that religion is something that most of the time serves as a setback to the potential of a human child, one that limits creativity, causes trauma, and separates the child from a world of almost limitless creative freedom.
This is not to say that a person who has grown up as such hasn’t succeeded in the world while still maintaining a positive outlook on their religion, as there are many adults working in areas of religious conflict (such as science) that still fully believe in a God or gods. It is just that for most cases, the conservative nature that comes with the strictness and control of religion tends to limit humans and their overall quest for everlasting improvement.
Because you see, most people on earth suffer through a desire for validation and acceptance. People are ultimately egotistical, and their pride manifests through the way that they pass their knowledge to younger people, the most obvious option being their children. A parent tends to force his ideals on his kid, purely because of a human being’s sense of perceptual and understandable superiority. People think that what they know is the best way to live, since they’ve managed to live this far by thinking the way they think. They want to make sure that the future generations of humanity are able to be as “complete” and as “mature” as they are, and subsequently pass their knowledge, often forcefully, to those beneath them. But they do this without realizing the fact that the person they are pushing their own ideals into is a completely separate and free-thinking individual, and treat the rejection of these ideals as “ignorance” or “immaturity”.
Why? This is because most people tend to see themselves as the protagonist to their own story. Their life is the most important one, the people around us serving as secondary and tertiary characters, our feelings, desires and emotions being multiplied to a universal extent within our own minds. The people we see on the street are mere extras and set dressing to our epic, lifelong tale, filled with love, despair, adventure, success, discovery, pain, passion, and eventual death. We live for ourselves, and anyone who doesn’t share our views of the world is deemed “objectively” wrong and therefore inferior to us. We believe that older people are less intelligent than us, and younger people are less experienced than us. That is a universal law of the human experience.
In a perfect world, the driving force behind human evolution would be of personal and societal acceptance. A world much like this one, with certain limitations towards the most destructive aspects of humanity (like murder, rape, etc.) but one where the exploration of sexuality, thought, and creativity was not burdened by notions of “correct” or “incorrect”. Where people would be allowed to explore what they wanted, to be as specific as they want to with their tastes and interests, where everyone could find something they want to do, something passionate and exciting for them. It seemed as though the future was looking in that direction recently, with the new, more free-spoken and free-thinking youth of the 21st Century, and the existence of the internet. But, sadly, I overestimated humanity, and their capacity for embarrassment to an existential degree will never be left behind.
The internet truly is the greatest creation in the entirety of human existence, one that has fundamentally changed the way the entire world communicates. It’s something deeply engrained into our species’ survival, and without it, our planet would fall into a state of chaos so large that it would be the end of the human race as we know it.
Due to it’s existence, and it’s incredible ease of access, people from all over the world have entered it, free to voice their truest, deepest thoughts and opinions about everything they could possibly give a shit about, largely thanks to the wonderful nature of anonymity and all the lack of responsibility that it gives us access to. Because of this, people all around the world have created “alternate selves”, virtual representations of who they are. This blog right now is one such alternate self, one that I ultimately and eventually want to represent me completely and utterly, with no setbacks.
This new ability, this sense of freedom that the internet allows us to embrace is the reason why today’s youth (and especially today’s youth more than the previous or future generation) is as violently and aggressively idiotic and downright ignorant as it is.
As I’ve talked about before, humans tend to want acceptance amongst others, and we have a desire to share our opinions and have them validated. When a tool comes along that allows us to voice our innermost and specific thoughts, and lets us talk to and discuss those topics with other similarly minded people, while also being as verbally destructive to those that oppose us, is something that to many people is mind-blowing in a subconscious level.
As extravagant as that explanation is, it all boils down to the fact that the internet is the destruction of the filter that the normal, 3D world has put on us. We can be as loud, abrasive, and passionate as we can, and this can lead to the mutation of our own opinions into something much more powerful and uncontrollable.
Internet dwellers, because of their continued positive interaction of those they share interests and passions with, and their continued negative interaction with those they disagree and argue over, has led to a strengthening of their respective opinions into the realm of “objectivity”. Most people nowadays online tend to view their opinions as purely objective and correct, voicing it out as if it were a true, unmoving reality of the universe. Hell, this very rant is exactly that, just my own, bloated opinion on the matter of the online culture, writing it as if it were a yet unrealized truth about the nature of humans.
But it’s not, it’s just my own delusional ramblings, written down at 11:50pm by an 18 year old sitting on a pile of pillows, typing for more than 2 hours straight while looking at his computer monitor, thinking about how great and smart he is, and how people will realize that this post is the best written post of all time, and discuss it at length with everyone they know, spreading it and beginning the discussion about the future of human interaction, changing the very fabric of human society and creating a better, more accepting world because of it.
I can only wish.
Well, 2281 words as of right now. I think that’s a good place to end this insane, nonsensical dive into my own mind, at least for right now. I have dozens and dozens of ideas that relate to everything I’ve just written, but I want to allow anyone reading to take a breather, since peeking into my psyche is something I wouldn’t wish on my worst enemy. This is basically what goes through my mind almost 24/7, this clusterfuck of thought, one that is almost impossible to truly and completely put into words.
See you fuckers on the next one.